2nd on both points, the chip should control the boost. Some people add a boost valve to control spiking or fix a problem but check it with your gauge, it should be fine. The reason why a boost gauge isn't on every car is because customer A says "how come customer B's car makes more boost?". It depends, two identical cars will just make different levels of power. Same thing with the water temperature gauge or oil pressure gauge.Why do you want to adjust the boost pressure, your chip program should regulate the boost pressure.
Also, a boost gauge is pretty much always a big help on any turbo car. The best gauges also have a peak hold function where it records the peak value reached. This lets you see spikes too fast to see.